How to cultivate healing through surrender
By Kelley Alchemy
I could start with a profound quote about how necessary and freeing letting go of what no longer is serving us is…. however, no matter how true that remains, it doesn’t change the fact that letting go is f*cking hard. Really hard… especially when it’s something or someone we have a strong emotional attachment to. I’ve struggled with this process most specifically when it comes to future ideas and expectations, programmed responses or automated perceptions, limiting beliefs, and of course, relationships — both romantic and platonic.
When we consciously confront and work through these experiences, a very specific, rare, and resilient aspect of our souls is excavated and born. This part of us is something so strong and subtle that we hardly realize when it takes root — yet, simultaneously and gradually acquire an unshakable level of love and respect for ourselves; a love for ourselves so real that we’re in wonder of how we ever survived without it. This healing presence of love and care arrives in the form of deep knowing and intuitive awareness. The ego can try and distract you from this connection to self, but the more you focus on strengthening it, the louder your intuition will get.
It can be challenging to differentiate between whether or not someone or something deserves more patience, effort and attention.... parting ways can feel too permanent or painful in the moment… especially if there hasn’t been a particularly negative experience associated with the person of thing you’re considering. For example, a partner who can’t commit in the way you desire or deserve, yet they have never cheated or treated you badly, so you make excuses as to why you should wait around for them or keep them in your life, even though you know in the back of your mind and heart what you really want.
What’s helpful to remember in these moments, is that by keeping these certain things and relationships at “arms reach” we are taking up valuable energy and resources when it comes to our manifesting capacity. We cannot energetically welcome in new people, places and experiences into our reality when we are consciously or even subconsciously holding space for these old things to return back.
Here are 10 suggestions I have found to be incredibly effective in cultivating that rare and healing “life source” energy that makes letting go feel more effortless. It’s important to be honest, gentle, forgiving, kind and supportive to yourself rather than harsh, judgmental or closed off. We are all human, remember this. Our intention is the most important thing.
Spending time alone and in nature will increase your intuitive awareness; do small recurring acts of loving kindness for yourself like taking a warm salt baths, stretching, dry brushing, self oil massages, etc.
Cooking for yourself and eating organically, locally, and in-season will elevate your vibrational frequency
Visualize what your ideal situation / partnership / career / etc. feels and looks like
Meditation, sound healing, journaling and intention setting are all excellent ways to transmute stuck, stagnant energies
Set fair and protective boundaries; implement them consistently and confidently
Read spiritual texts, help others, donate money or time to those in need
Do more of what you enjoy; spend time with loved ones without devices and technology involved
Travel, explore, plan adventures, immerse yourself in the unknown or foreign
Learn hobbies that provide life-sustaining returns such as sewing your own clothes or growing your own vegetables
Above all, learn to live in a state of gratitude and unconditional love no matter the circumstances. When we can find trust and peace even in times of disappointment, heartache, fear, worry and lack, we are reminded that everything is temporary and that the divine is always working in our highest good.
Implementing these helpful techniques and loving practices will help to strengthen your connection to self so you can be more in-tune with our body, emotions, mind, and heart. When we are more present and aware with our feelings and personal auric frequency, we are able to more clearly and confidently choose our thoughts and even responses. This all in turn, creates room for miracles and new opportunities to manifest within your reality.
Letting go is hard, but so is taking chances and breaking free from old, limiting patterns and ways of living — choose your hard. You will never regret taking more time and space for yourself and your future.
